I have learned much through my journey, I have learned through group, individual, and within my own inner soul if a relationship is unhealthy "get out". That does not include just an intimate relationship, it includes all. Even a father, mother, step mother, cousins, friends, any one who is controlling, manipulative, mentally or physically abusive or who has harmed me or others in the past are unhealthy relationships. It is OK to NOT be a part of someone's life due to their behavior.......it is OK, because it is healthy for me or anyone learning to live a happy, healthy, and wonderful life… it is OK and well with my soul..We are normal to say enough is enough; no more crazy making!~
It is hard enough dealing with trauma, but to have family and others rub salt into the invisible wounds we know we must have no contact. Especially if they say things about you that hurt.
"Get over it....nothing is wrong with you...you are crazy.....the sins of the mother might really be the sins of the father......step parent.....you over react to everything.....you lie, that never happened..." I could go and on....these people want to control us not love us and be understanding.
I think, "My God what is wrong with them?".....but then they should look in the mirror because it is them that hurt us and others all around them.
In the cases of Vets and PTSD survivors, PLEASE educate your selves, find all the love you can to show them you are not the enemy. Trust is a big factor….if a survivor trusts you; you are half way there. If there is not trust they will shut down and isolate themselves. Help them get the proper help they need to be whole early on.
If you rub salt into the wound, you might as well stick a knife through their heart and soul. If they can not recover due to lack of support and education, your loved one will numb themselves and eventually die. Either by their own hand or by health ailments.
Survivors know this….hopefully this opens eyes to those who say they love or loved us. God Bless.