I have a lady who say's she is my friend ,
But what exactly is a real friend? She is alway's calling me in her time of
trouble, Which I don't mind , But where do I as a person draw the line as
A friend? do I keep running to help, or do I step back and let her , and her 37 year old daughter - find out what life is really all about?
I have been taught as a young lady to hold my head up and to keep my problem's to myself. And only tell what is asked of me, Maybe that is why I really never had too many so called friend's.
I was told if you make your bed hard it's up to you to straighten up your own mess. Please dont get me wrong I do have friend's just not like this one.
I'm not sure how to cope with this problem, I care for these people and I dont want anything bad to happen to them, But they have alway's had money and never had to work or really do anything to provide for anyone.They themselve's
have alway's had it all . So what do you do with friend's like that.
You try But what if they dont try and help themselves?
Do I keep taking care of them or do I let them find out how to take care of themselve's?
I really am stuck at my very own question here.
since I'm her best friend , or so she said .Well I found out just how wrong that was.
Just what do I do? Or is that her problem and not my concern?
I'm just not sure how that work's ,I have tried to show her how to save money and do alot of different thing's , But since she had anything she wanted
since birth just how do you change that in a person,
Now that they have no money, and cannot continue to live as they are
accustomed. Pardon me , But do I dare take up where her parent's left off?
Considering her age and mine , she is at least 14 year's older than I .
But My up bringing was totally different, So I guess what I 'am really asking
am I being used or am I really a true friend as she say's I 'am. I was being used.Totally ! I found out the hard way , A hard lesson ,I will never forget .
The grass is alway's greener on the other side, I have heard that all of my life.
so what now? I have a friend or shall I say (Friend's ) But I am not sure if they would have even spoken to me had I not had money to sustain this relationship, and I guess I wouldn't really be thinking about it at all,
But as alway's (My Husband) brought this to my attention,again ....He was right..
I really already knew this in my heart " I just want the World to be different then what people say it really is" But It isn't.
That Is only a dream world that I as a person , Would love to know and see ." Because I have a good heart." ! Quote!
He seem's to think that my heart is bigger then my Vision's of people or the world we live in, If someone were cold, I would give them , My coat .I'm that way.
If I see someone in need I see a way I can help , If I see somewhere that
I can lend a hand ,I'm more than happy to help. Don't get me wrong he is very sweet and help's alot also, But as he has pointed out just tonight they will not call for day's and then they make me feel quilty for not checking to see if they were in need of something, as you all know I'm a "Aurthor" and I 'm right in the middle of another book, I would love to be able to do alot of thing's,
But my passion is writing, as I'm sure most everyone in this blog is or we wouldn't be doing it. Am I right?
I sure hope that I'm not the only one who love's to read and to write,
(Only joking.) I have read some very good thing's on these blog's .More than just good . most are wonderful..But this is one thing that is really bothering me so much that I just had to ask all that read this. Please let me know what you think, If you think they are my friend's for money be truthful , I can take it..
If you think I'm being selfish, well "Please let me know that also" I wouldn't like that, But I would want to know !
I hope that I haven't bored you too very badly.
I hope to see something from all of you I do value your input.
Thank you ..
Since writing this post I decided to do as my husband ask of me. I quit giving them any money . And just gave them the thing's they really needed. I found out right away. Wow "He was absolutely right" it broke my heart.. But I guess it needed to be done . Just to prove to me . "That ,Yes Mary Foster " People will take very bad advantage of you if you let them. that is several time's I have let this happen .I vow Not to ever be that open hearted to a person or person's again ! Unless it is a Child . God forgive me , But this World has changed and I guess I need to also.
Word to the wise. Be careful of fraud's on the net seeking money. I got suckered by a lady on here too ! I paid her bill's for her also. or maybe it's just my luck.Or a Thing that God wanted me to learn and tell about, I'm not telling you not to help.
Just check it out "FIRST" Just saying..
Take Care, And Warm Regard's .
Author : Mary Foster.